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I've loved lists since I could hold a pen. The sight of a brand-new legal pad  still sends tingles of possibility down my spine. I can wander in an office supply store for hours, evangelizing about the perfect Bic gel pen with the micro-fine tip. I've owned dozens of...

Here's a riddle for you. Q: What is the one thing you can never get enough of? A: Something you didn't really want in the first place. This paradox captures what happens when we "buffer" - constantly reaching for more of something external that never quite satisfies...

The Buddhists have a saying: Life is 10,000 joys and 10,000 sorrows. Pain is inevitable.  From minor disappointments to profound grief, negative emotions are part of the human experience. So much of our suffering in this human life comes not from the initial pain...

In these winter days, weariness can settle in like a heavy frost.  Maybe it's those seasonal blues, the weight of world events, or that shining January resolution, now dulled by February's reality. Perhaps it's the ache of a dream, or an effort into which you've...

It’s mid-December. Are you still searching just the right thing for someone on your list? When you give someone a book, you’re giving a gift that could be life changing. A year ago, I referenced E.B. White's Charlotte's Web as my first self-help book. Reading that on...

Pictured:  When it Comes to Love Ability, Fable is a Master Instructor.   In my last post, I shared the story of my relationship with my dad – a journey of understanding love beyond our carefully constructed expectations. Today I want to dive deeper into a...

My relationship with my dad may be like one you have in your life.   It was a messy, combustible mix of adoration and frustration.  We were extremely alike yet had almost nothing in common.  Sometimes we understood each other; more often, we were mutually mystified –...

Komorebi, a Japanese word describing sunlight filtering through trees, serves as a powerful metaphor for life’s interplay of light and shadow. This post explores how embracing both the beauty and challenges of existence can lead to greater peace and acceptance. By practicing radical acceptance and treating all emotions as “honored guests,” we can navigate life’s unpredictability with more resilience and presence. The article encourages readers to notice the “komorebi” around and within them, finding moments of joy amidst life’s inherent chaos.

Perfectionism is a pretender. It swoops in, whispering lies and promises. It pretends to keep you safe: from fear, criticism, vulnerability. “Impeccable is untouchable,” is one of its delusions.
Perfectionism will make you feel like an impostor, but perfectionism itself is the impostor: one that drains your energy and hijacks your time. The one-hour project takes all afternoon; the dream design dissolves quickly into overwhelm. Perfectionism can layer insurmountable stress onto any event or endeavor.

If you’ve ever taken a walk with a three-year-old, you’ve seen curiosity in action: there is fascination and wonder at every turn.  Curiosity is a wonderful emotion to feel and a hallmark of health and happiness.  Later in life, we tend to lose our sense of curiosity...